Clear communication. Lower escalation. Stronger record.
Use this when your co-parent has already sent something. Paste text or upload a screenshot/PDF, then refine your response before sending.
Use this when you're starting a message from scratch. Draft naturally, then review for clarity and stability before you send.
Turns an incoming message into a neutral summary by removing emotional or inflammatory language. It helps you respond to substance instead of tone.
FlagFree reviews tone, clarity, and structure, then offers a stabilized version you can copy into your platform. You stay in control of what you send.
An estimate of how likely a draft is to escalate conflict or be read negatively later. It's not a legal evaluation: it's a clarity and stability signal.
Shows what changed and why. You'll see key risk drivers, how tone was stabilized, and how the structure aligns with platform norms.
This helps FlagFree match the tone and level of structure you need. If you're unsure, you can skip and adjust later in Settings.
Adds basic context so suggestions fit your real-life schedule language. Choose what's closest: it doesn't need to be perfect.
Sets the default language for your account. You can also switch languages anytime from the header.
Used only for context and age-appropriate wording. It does not change custody settings or legal terms.
Respond to a message
New message
After you review
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FlagFree is a communication support tool. It does not provide legal advice.
What FlagFree Is
FlagFree is a structured message-review system designed to help you communicate calmly and strategically in co-parenting situations.
It does not replace your communication platform. It helps you refine your message before you send it.
Every message you send — whether through Civil Communicator, OurFamilyWizard, TalkingParents, text, email, or any other channel — may later be reviewed, screenshotted, or introduced in court.
FlagFree helps you write with that awareness.
How FlagFree Works
FlagFree is built around one core decision: are you responding to a message, or starting a new one?
At the top of the Messages screen, choose:
Respond to a Message
New Message
Both paths lead to the same stabilization engine.
When You Receive a Message
Add the message — paste text, upload a screenshot, upload a PDF, or extract text from a supported file. Messages are processed in real time and not retained.
(Optional) Use Just the Facts to extract neutral, factual content from emotional language.
Draft your reply. Type, paste, or use voice input. Write naturally.
Click Review Message.
When You Need to Send a New Message
Choose New Message.
Draft your message using text or voice input.
Click Review Message.
What Happens After You Click “Review Message”
Escalation Risk
FlagFree assigns an Escalation Risk score that reflects the likelihood of triggering conflict, risk of moderation or delay, and risk if the message is introduced later. You’ll see a “Before Stabilization” and “After Stabilization” comparison showing measurable risk reduction.
Stabilized Response
The refined version removes inflammatory language, shifts focus to child-centered logistics, improves clarity and defensibility, and aligns with platform norms. On structured platforms, this may include concise bullet formatting. You choose whether to use it.
Use This Version
Copy the refined message and paste it into your co-parenting platform.
Save for 72 Hours
Save a refined draft for up to 72 hours. After that, it is permanently deleted.
Why This Is Safer
After your message is reviewed, you can see exactly what changed and why.
What Changed
Removed hostile phrasing, added topic framing, and reduced triggers.
Top Risk Drivers
Highlights the specific elements that raised the escalation risk score.
Platform Compliance
Shows how the refined message aligns with norms across platforms.
All written communication can potentially be used in legal contexts. Structure and clarity matter everywhere.
FlagFree Foresight™
Stability Plus
FlagFree Foresight goes beyond tone correction. It provides positioning insight, conflict trajectory analysis, record-building review, and a “What to Consider” section that highlights tone trade-offs, over-formality risk, and when a different channel might be better.
Best used for:
Sensitive custody matters
Escalating communication patterns
Court-monitored platforms
Situations where every word matters
FlagFree Foresight is a communication support feature. It does not provide legal advice.
Platform Awareness
FlagFree supports the following communication platforms:
Civil Communicator
OurFamilyWizard
TalkingParents
Text / SMS
Any written communication can potentially be used in court. FlagFree helps with structure and clarity — it does not provide legal advice.
Plans and Feature Differences
Second Look
Free
For trying FlagFree and reviewing a few key messages.
2 message reviews per month
Clear tone suggestions
Simple rewrites
Platform-aware guidance
First-time users
Occasional high-stakes messages
Checking tone before sending
When you want a second set of eyes before you send
Steady
$24/month
For ongoing co-parent communication and staying consistent.
Up to 20 message reviews per month
Tone and clarity improvements
Platform-specific guidance
Personalized suggestions
Voice-to-text message review
Regular scheduling and logistics
Keeping messages calm and focused
Reducing reactive replies
Building a strong communication record
Stability Plus
$39/month
For high-conflict or legally sensitive communication where your record matters.
Unlimited message reviews
Advanced escalation modeling
De-escalation strategy guidance
Adaptive responses based on your co-parent’s patterns
Priority processing
FlagFree Foresight™ — preview how your message may be interpreted
Sensitive custody matters
Escalating communication patterns
Court-monitored platforms
Situations where every word matters
Privacy and Data Handling
Messages are processed in real time and are not stored.
Uploaded files are used only to extract text and are not retained.
Voice audio is transcribed and immediately discarded. Audio is never saved.
Refined drafts you choose to save expire and are permanently deleted after 72 hours.
Your data is never used to train AI models.
FlagFree is a communication support tool. It does not provide legal advice.
Best Practices
Add context in Settings — details like custody schedules and key issues help the AI refine more accurately.
Use Just the Facts before replying to emotional messages to stay focused on substance.
Review before sending — the stabilization step is where tone and clarity improve.
Use FlagFree Foresight™ for high-stakes situations where positioning matters.
Save drafts when emotions are elevated. Revisit with a clearer perspective before sending.
Read it calm. Send it clean.
Structured for You
This guide is organized so that each section can also appear as a tooltip or help card inside the product. If you see a help icon next to a feature, it links back to the relevant part of this guide.